I don’t really put much thought into things. I don’t think I ever have. This is kind of funny because -I have plenty of time at work to do so. I’d guestimate the load on my brain is about 20% - 30% on average. There are times when I actually have to troubleshoot/fix something and I’m really paying attention to what’s going on for a measurable period of time, but for the most part little thinking is needed. This leaves me free to think about whatever I want. Or rather, this leaves me needing to think of something least I go crazy while I wait for the day to end. Given, work isn’t the best place to really concentrate on something anyways, but I still waste most of that time. I end up singing to myself or even explaining things I already know to myself conversationally. It can be entertaining at the very least. When I try, I can think through something decently enough. I mostly thought of what to write for this post while at work the other day for example. I just usually don’t.
My real point with not thinking about things though is that I end up not always fully understanding situations. I don’t necessarily think of others overly much because I don’t really do a whole lot of the thinking thing. It all works out in a wonderfully mediocre kind of way.
I think this habit is related to my detachment to things. I’m not sure if it’s a cause or an effect exactly. I tend to detach. It’s a coping mechanism I suppose. I tend to end up taking it to an extreme though and I have a tendency to end up detached from important things like say, Milenka. That happens and then I don’t even care if she say moves out even. I’ve done that as long as I can remember though. My parents divorced when I was 8 and I don’t really remember caring all that much about it. It’s easier to detach if you don’t think much about things I guess. Of course, in a way, not thinking about things causes some level of detachment on it’s own.
This all ties in to memory as well. I have trouble remembering things. I do have trouble with things from say a day or two ago, but it’s present on a longer scale as well. Sometimes Milenka will bring up something that’s happened in the last 5 years from when we’ve been married and I don’t have a clue what she’s talking about. It kind of hurts her that I don’t really. Anyways, I know little about human memory, but my theory is that the more you think about something the better you will remember it. This makes sense on a lot of levels. This is what you’re doing when you’re studying for a test. Of course, after the test, if you don’t think about (or use) any of that stuff then you’ll find even 6 months later you’ve forgotten a good portion of it. My earliest memory is fuzzy and has something to do with a plane made out of legos from McDonalds and being in the car afterwards playing with it. I have no supporting memories to give it a timeframe other than before I was 8, but I do recall when I was younger having some reason to believe it was from when I was maybe 3 or 4. I’ve always thought of this when I think of my earliest memory, and that’s the only reason I really have any recollection of it. It’s as if memories lose strength over time and when you recall them some of that strength is added back and you remember for longer. Of course, some memories have such strong emotional ties that their strength starts off so high that you’ll probably never forget (and if you’re that attached to start off with you’ll undoubtedly reflect back on them from time to time anyways of course). This has been my experience anyways. I suspect that this is something that is fairly true, however.
My point here, of course, is that I tend to not remember things because I don’t reflect back on them. I tend to wonder how much better off I would be if I were to at least take a moment from time to time to reflect back on what had happened. I’d say it’s a good idea and that I’ll try it out, but it’s hard to say if I’ll actually get around to it or not per se…
I’m hoping the blog here will help out with this as well. I think it will serve as a good memory jogger. To those ends, in the sidebar you’ll now find an excerpt from entries from the same date in pervious years (that is to say, it will show back more than one year but there’s nothing to show at this point). It required a plugin (we’re using movabltype here..) called OnThisDay that adds a MT template tag with the same name to hand this. I was googling for things like “show entry 1 year ago” and such and I finally stumbled across the MT plugin directory that sixapart maintains and found it there…. That would have been a good place to start I guess
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